A Life In Letters

Disclaimer:

I would like to state that this letter is, by NO means, intended to excuse the actions of Britney Spears. It is merely my opinion on the way the paparazzi has aided in her downfall, and that of so many other celebrities. Their actions may not always be right, but celebrities are human beings; and like all humans, they make mistakes. The only difference between their mistakes and ours, is that their’s make it to the evening news. — NightWriter

To Whom It May Concern,

In the late 90s, the world was introduced to a young Pop artist by the name of Britney Spears. Best known for her studio albums, music videos, and songs like “Ooops!…I Did it Again”, “I’m A Slave For You”, and “Toxic”; Britney has been crowned Pop Princess by many of her fans.

The singer/dancer/actress, has acquired many devoted fans. But recently some of those fans have turned their back on Britney due to her shocking and controversial actions in the past few years; all of which has been captured and viciously dissected by the media.

From her over publicized relationship with Justin Timberlake, and then an even more publicized break up, her 48 hour marriage to childhood friend Jason Allen Alexander, to her marriage to and divorce of Kevin Federline, Britney’s life has become a daily aspect of our lives. Her life is continuously documented through tabloids, magazines, and even the evening news.

Fans, and the public in general, are most alarmed by the stories of her mis care of her babies, constant partying, “wardrobe malfunction”, and alcoholism. Through the persistent coverage of her daily life, it is clear that Britney Spears is a troubled woman in need of help. Yet, all we do is feed the media monster by increasing sales in tabloids, and watching shows like Entertainment Tonight, E!, and Extra, that exploit celebrity faults.

Instead we should give Britney, and other celebrities, their privacy and allow them to live their life. She needs time to heal and fix her serious problems, especially since she now has children.

Yes, I enjoy hearing about celebrities, but when the paparazzi become so aggressive that stars have to fight back to get a moment to themselves, it isn’t worth it. Neither is tuning in to the news only to find stories about Britney, Anna-Nicole, Paris, Lindsay, and other stars. As if there is no other news to report but Britney coming out of a car with no panties, or Paris’ sex tape.

Celebrities give us so much through their movies or music; why can’t we give them something in return. Like a moments peace.

Sincerely,
NightWriter.

Dear Steph,

An acquaintance of mine asked me if I planned on having kids. My first reaction to the question was shock. She wasn’t a close friend, and I wasn’t planning on making her one. We barely talk, so how dare she ask me such a personal question. But I began to realize that she, like so much of the world today, had no social etiquette at all. So I forgave her rudeness and replied; stating that, despite my love for children-like my nephew-I had no interest in having kids. I was not surprised at the look on her face-the “what’s wrong with you?” look.

She asked me why, and how can I be so certain considering I’m only 18 and still have many years to think about having kids, and what if my future husband wanted children…then what?

Why? I love kids, really I do. They’re cute and fun. I’m just not parent material. I know I’m young to be deciding on a subject like this, but I’m 100% sure; and if you’ve lived my life you would be too. Parenthood is not my forté; I know this with all my heart, every fiber of my being, and deep with in my soul. You see, I’m really screwed up. Really, I’m a mess. Paranoid, neurotic, temperamental, on the brink of insanity. I know I’m unstable, and I posses the intelligence to understand that placing a child in the middle of my instability would not be wise. I don’t want to create a monster.

I may be young, but I know what I want, or in this case what I don’t want, and I certainly don’t want children. And then there is her question of “what if your husband wants kids?” To tell you the truth, like parenthood, marriage doesn’t seem to be in future. You must understand, my family has recently been cursed. “What do you mean cursed?”, you ask. Let me explain: All the women in my family are magnets to abusive, drunken, down right worthless men. And men who are born into the family turn out to be replicas of the dogs who fathered them. Hard as we try, we can’t break the curse. My great grandfather and great grandmother had a loving and successful marriage. It’s after that that everything went wrong for my family.

I’ve come to terms with my future love life. And if I’m just over dramatic then fine. If sometime in my life I should fall in love, I hope it is with a man who understands and supports my decision to not have kids.

This answer was not enough for my friend, who felt it was her duty to brainwash me into believing that I would only be happy in life if I had children. And so she played the religion card. Stating that God put us on earth to multiply, that it said so in the Bible. Obviously, she had no idea who she was talking to….suggesting that I have children because the Bible says I should….Gods will…and so on. Frustrated with her ignorance, to tired to explain my lack of faith and religion, and ever so eager to get away from her, I gave her a link to my blog, suggested she read my Finding Faith series and walked away.

I’m childfree, and shall remain so. No child loving, God fearing, brainwashed baby boomer can convince me otherwise. CAP-Childfree And Proud.

Sincerely,
NightWriter.

Dear Steph,

In Taylor, Mich,a 33-year-old woman now faces charges of child sexually abusive behavior, illegal use of the Internet for child sexually abusive actions or materials and distribution of child sexually abusive material for allegedly offering an undercover investigator pornographic photographs of her 7-year-old daughter.

The woman offered to let the investigator take pictures of the child, and upon meeting with him, suggested to be paid in exchange for sex with her daughter. The woman was arrested on Friday after meeting with the investigator and, if convicted, faces up to 20 years in prison. The name of the woman is being withheld to protect the identity of the child.

What is wrong with the world? This woman has to have some serious psychiatric problems to be offering her daughter like this. If she’s so desperate for money why not sell herself? And who’s to say this is not the first time she’s done this. That poor little girl could have been prostituted by her mother for years. If this woman is convicted, I hope the child is put in a home where she will be safe and taken care of.

I don’t know the exact set up that woman had, but clearly she was not a place in life to be providing for a child. This is why people should think before they procreate. If you can’t care for a child properly, please don’t have one!

Sincerely,
NightWriter.